The 5 fears we all share but don't talk about
Ok, so it is time to get out from under the table and talk about our fears 'cause we have them all. I remember as a child, I used to wake up in the middle of the night and start crying wondering what life was all about. There was also a period in my teens, when I suffered an obsessive fear of loosing a loved one. The transitoriness of life started my own soul searching till I found my path and began meditating. That was about 16 or 17 years ago and even though the fears have not gone completely, meditation has given me the strength to face them and get over them. Here are some of the fears that still assail me and what I do to rid myself of them. Remember there is nothing worse than living a life filled with fears and you want to be able to do something about such a state of fearful existence.
1. The loneliness syndrome
There was a period in my life when I had just got out of a bad marriage and for the sake of my job, was living alone in a rented apartment in a big city. I have to confess that there were moments when life used to get overwhelmingly lonely, but something a friend told me was so beautiful that it really helped me and stayed with me always. He said the loneliness that I was suffering from would eventually make me start enjoying aloneness! I also realized that being in the company of people all the time had taken me away from my own self and instead of seeking out another relationship to get over my loneliness, it was time to step back, focus on my spiritual life and enjoy the road to aloneness.
2. Fear of sickness and disease
Ok, so I am not going to play superwoman and proclaim that I don’t fear sickness or disease or that negative thoughts of ill-health don’t wander about my consciousness just when I am about getting into bed at night, but I have to say that meditation, exercise and creative activity has really helped me to rid myself of negative thoughts. Having an ambition in life, employing will power creatively and constructively to working towards that ambition and using mind-power developed through meditation and concentration to visualize achievement of goals (instead of illnesses ha!) will leave the mind with no time to think negatively. If negative thoughts still come, practice affirmations by repeating a statement of truth in your mind unceasingly till it becomes a part of you. Who said life was easy?:)
3. Fear of poverty
This is a good one and takes us back to one eternal principle of happiness as lived by some of the most successful people in the world: non-attachment to possessions! I was watching 'The Social Network', the film on Mark Zuckerberg, founder and SEO of Facebook, and was totally impressed by his non-attachment to wealth. The thing that stood out about him was that he started Facebook not because he wanted to make money but because he was passionate about what he was doing. The same goes for Warren Buffet, one of the most successful investment bankers in the world and who still lives in his old home in Nebraska that he bought in 1958 for $31,500.
For those of us who are still not ready to practice such drastic forms of renunciation, another great way of eliminating poverty consciousness is by developing a generous heart and helping others in need-it increases our own consciousness of abundance.
4. Fear of loosing a loved one
Having lost my father and my elder brother in a car-accident an year after, have been the greatest tests for me and my family but I have to say that my practice of meditation has really helped me to come to terms with reality. Fear of loosing a loved one is a very real fear that can actually drive us to start our own soul-searching about the verities of life. Don’t forget to tell your loved ones every other day how much you love and cherish them because you never know when life will take them away from you. Ok, so I don’t want to send you into a depression with this post, but if you have any questions about how my spiritual practices help me to deal with such fears, write to me and I will be happy to answer your questions!
5. Overcoming fear of death
I bow down to whoever has overcome this fear! The only way that works for me is to not think about it, live each day fully, have a grateful heart and meditate each night to connect with my real self. :)
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