This Thanksgiving I want to remember and be grateful to the Universe for the love of my family, for my beautiful friends and for all those little incidents that have so blessed my life, that I can honestly quote 'I don't believe in miracles, I live by them!' In this post, I want to share some of the wonderful experiences that have happened to me, which make life blessed and full.
Almost everybody will agree how effective a tool Facebook is to reach out to people, connect with old friends as well as grow your business. However, if we don't use this tool with restrain, it can also become very addictive, and like any other addiction prove to be extremely detrimental to our happiness by killing our initiative and will-power. With all the craziness that is happening in the world today, the first thing I have been doing on waking up these past few days, is to check my Facebook account. I remember a couple of years ago, a friend telling me how her life had changed and how happy she had become after she had stopped checking her Facebook the first thing in the mornings! I could not relate to what she was saying as I was not on Facebook back then, but I did give her a couple of condescending glances which meant that I was way above all of this! Then my blog happened and then Facebook to promote my blog, and even though for the first few months I did not check the news feed and only posted links to my blog posts on Facebook, very soon I too was addicted!
Meet Utkarsh Narang, a Delhi based photographer who is changing people's lives through his camera lens. Utkarsh's Happiness Project is an initiative to ask one person every day for a period of 365 days, the most basic question of life - what makes him/her happy? Here is a brief interview of Utkarsh where he talks more in detail about the project.
The other day somebody sent me an article written by a mother of two grown-up children, now married and how by practicing detachment in her attachment towards them, she was able not only to let go off them but at the same time give them her complete unconditional love. This helped her to start accepting people and things around her as they were, developing in her a sense of peace and contentment. I am not a mother of two, in fact I am not even married and I am not sure that my love for others can match the unconditional love a mother feels for her children, but one thing I know for certain, that if I do not practice Conscious Detachment in my relationship with others, I may hurt myself and end up feeling lonely and miserable.
One of the most exhilarating of all human emotions is the feeling of falling in love and the churning sensations it causes in your stomach that makes you almost want to throw up! This feeling of nausea accompanied by a loss of appetite, breathlessness and a dimming of all other sensations of taste, smell, touch, hearing and seeing, are some of the most immediate signs of having fallen hopelessly in love. Of course, there are other indications too, like the enlargement of a vivid imagination, making you believe in a fanciful perfect life with your fanciful perfect mate in some fanciful part of the universe!
As I started working on this post, the irony was not lost on me--I had just come back from an intense swim session and was feeling so exhausted that all I wanted to do was sleep or watch a movie or while away my time on social media--in other words, I was just not in the mood to use my brains even though this post was scheduled to go out today. As soon as I was about to sink in this unholy state, I quickly picked myself up and switching off my greatest distraction--my IPhone 6SPlus, started working on another post that did not require so many brains. After working 2 hours at a stretch and battling with dryness and lethargy, I felt positively good for having done the right thing.
It's usually not an easy thing to figure out what we really want to do in life and before we know we end up in jobs we hate or marry and have kids just because everybody else around us is doing the same thing. In the mad rush of life, our dreams are destroyed and we become unhappy and miserable ending up in places we'd rather not be. Of course, many times our choices in life are dictated by the need of the moment like paying the bills but this should not make us give up on our dreams. Through my own experiences and by studying the lives of some of the world's most successful people, I am convinced that if go on searching, the right opportunity will come to us; it cannot be otherwise.
Recently I got into an unpleasant situation with a dear friend that excited in me negative emotions to the point that I was no longer at peace with myself. Now, I have been a student of meditation for several years and such a negative response from me goes against the very core of what I have been learning and trying to practise all my life, but there it was--I was becoming a victim of my own negative thoughts and feelings that were threatening to destroy not only my own values and beliefs but also a friendship with somebody whom I so loved and cherished.
Have you ever found yourself so burdened with work and to-do lists that inspite of all your efforts to succeed, you still feel that you haven't really accomplished much and are always running behind schedule? This has been my state of consciousness lately and upon analyzing my thoughts and actions, I came up with the following list of things that I am not doing right or need to change in my life for success to happen.
Mindfulness is a state of being aware of the present moment, of one's feelings, thoughts and bodily sensations. The technological revolution of recent years instead of making our lives simpler, has sped things up so that they no longer have to be done today or tomorrow but yesterday! The result is increased levels of stress and a growing dissatisfaction in life resulting from a blast of sensory stimuli caused by the television, internet and social media.
Ok, so it is time to get out from under the table and talk about our fears 'cause we have them all. I remember as a child, I used to wake up in the middle of the night and start crying wondering what life was all about. There was also a period in my teens, when I suffered an obsessive fear of loosing a loved one. The transitoriness of life started my own soul searching till I found my path and began meditating. That was about 16 or 17 years ago and even though the fears have not gone completely, meditation has given me the strength to face them and get over them.
For those of you who have been following my fashion blog ever since I started this website, probably know of my struggle with shopaholism. In fact it was my love for clothes that made me want to start a fashion blog in the first place! Well, that was an year ago and so much has changed since then. Today I was reading something I had written in January last year and was surprised at what I had written. It was about my struggle with shopaholism and the different methods I was using to trick the mind to get over my shopping addiction.
Long time ago I confessed to a friend how I sometimes got into a mood immediately on waking up in the morning so that I didn't want to get out of bed. My friend who has a very perceptive mind asked me to review my life. She thought that perhaps the work I was doing was not making me happy which caused the moodiness in the mornings. After a period of deep introspection, I realized that what she was saying was indeed true and it was time in fact, I needed to make some real changes in my life. If you know what I am talking about, the following to-do list just might help you to kick start your day in the right direction.
I was recently talking to a friend from my meditation group we have been attending for over 15 years now. She was feeling defeated about not being able to conquer some of her bad habits that have remained with her over the years and was having doubts about her own worthiness for the spiritual path. This reminded me of another similar discussion I had with another friend long time ago on the power of habit in controlling our actions.
I was reading somewhere that the nerves have two major functions--firstly, they help us to connect with the world, and secondly, when the energy in the nerves is reversed through meditation, they help us to connect with our higher Self. Nervousness simply put, is a condition of overstimulation of nerves, when the consciousness is too much tied to the body and its demands.
If you've been having doubts about your partner even after several years of marriage or how you ended up where you ended up, perhaps this post might help you to put things better in perspective. I am not a marriage counselor but I have learnt a lot not only through my own experiences but also those of my friends. Here are the most common delusions that we may tend to suffer regarding marriage and relationships.
The first time I started to read Calvin and Hobbes was, believe it or not, when I was trying to get over a guy. I must confess that despite my agonizing mental states, it brought a smile on my tear-jerked face, swollen with the misery of unfulfilled human love and attachment! This last week has been particularly tough on me (oh boy!) and as I was browsing Pinterest, suddenly my sister's board on Calvin and Hobbes popped up on the computer screen in front of me and reading the jokes, I couldn't but marvel at the author's (Bill Watterson) amazing sense of humor and wit as he explores life through the eyes of a six year old boy called Calvin.
The other day I was talking to a friend about my blog when she suddenly asked me if this is what I really wanted to do in life?!--and the answer was a spontaneous 'yes!'. But I must confess that it has taken me several years of working on my own self, discovering my needs and aspirations and even experimenting with different kinds of vocations, to arrive at a point when I can truthfully say that my work brings me the greatest joy possible and for the first time in my life, I am truly happy with what I am doing.
About three years ago, I had bought a couple of potted, indoor plants for the guest-rooms in our house, that I eventually failed to take care of, as I got busy with work and travel. Then one day I realized that 10 days had gone past and I had not watered them. Feeling very guilty about my indifferent attitude, I somehow gathered the courage to look at them. One had almost died with only the stem remaining and half a leaf sticking out in its last attempts to live, and the other one was turning all brown in color with only a few leaves still hanging on to life.